If your spouse of however many years is having difficulty living at home and needs constant supervision or assistance, that can take a toll on anyone, regardless of age. If you are already in your 70’s, possibly into your 80’s, you don’t want to turn your back on him or her. However, even though you understand assisted living is a great option, you wonder if it is time yet or if you can still both remain home and together.
Complaining is easy. People complain all the time. Many people complain and don’t even realize they’re doing it. It becomes habit. Maybe your mother has never been like that. Perhaps she has put up with a lot in her life, dealt with many challenging circumstances that would have troubled other people, and would never have thought about complaining. Your mother may have been one of those people that saw the blessings in everything. That is a wonderful characteristic and trait to have. But whether that was her life before or she was always one to complain, she may be complaining about this new assisted living environment she finds herself in.
How many times have you changed your mind about something? What about something considered quite important? Most of us will admit we aren’t entrenched in our opinions about everything. In fact, when you learn something new, it can completely alter your perspective… and your views. One of those topics could involve assisted living.
Understanding what you might expect when moving to a new place is important. Whether it’s a child going off to summer camp for the first time, a teenager heading off to college, or a middle-aged person moving to a new city for a job opportunity, the unknown can be unsettling, to say the least. That is also the case for seniors who plan to move to assisted living for the first time.
Excuses are easy to make. Almost every one of us will make plenty of excuses to avoid doing things we don’t really want to do, or to avoid situations we don’t find comfortable. Or agreeable. Just because you’ll elderly doesn’t change that. Some seniors make excuses for a wide range of reasons, including to avoid talking about things they just don’t want to discuss (at least at that time). One of those topics some elders might not wish to discuss could be assisted living for their senior care.
As we get older, our bodies change. What had once been easy to do will suddenly become more complicated. Tougher. We will also contend with an increased risk of various health challenges, including vision and hearing loss. Can a loved one still be safe living at home (whether alone or not) or should they consider moving into assisted living?
Making a move to assisted living is a wonderful plan for an aging senior who may need extra support as they move through life. Just because this might be an anticipated move, something the elderly loved one in your life is looking forward to, that doesn’t mean the actual move will be easy, or smooth.
Stacy was getting stressed. She had been supporting her elderly mother for a while, and the job was wearing her down. She had plenty of other responsibilities, but couldn’t turn her back on her mom, not when she needed help the most. So, she went forth and did the best she could, but it was taking a toll on her health, time, relationships, and life.
Many assisted living communities across the country have gone into what some might consider “lockdown” mode. This basically means visitors are not permitted on the grounds, at least not without a careful and thorough check to ensure they are not sick.
Everything changes. That’s the overall theme of life, isn’t it? No matter how much we wish things stayed the same, the passage of time and the natural process of aging force us to deal with change. Coronavirus roared into 2020 and has changed American life as we know it. For those seniors at assisted living, many of those changes have been unsettling, to say the least.
So now looking forward, how might things be permanently different even long after coronavirus is well in the past?